It's that time of year again when we
give thanks for our many blessings. We express our gratitude and many of us
reach out to others in need in the spirit of giving. One day a year is nice,
but how can we encourage our children to be more grateful, caring and
considerate all year long?
Help encourage considerate behavior
with these tips from the Triple P Positive Parenting Program, generously
funded by The Children’s Trust:
demonstrate consideration for others when they:
Share and let others have a turn
Ask what others would like to do
Wait when others are busy
Think about others' feelings
Are friendly and welcoming
Help out at home
can encourage consideration by doing the following:
Modeling being considerate yourself. Children are sponges and they are very much aware of
Avoid criticizing others. Set an example and let them know that accepting others
for who they are is important.
Point out others’ good points. Focus on the positive.
Provide opportunities to show caring. Thanksgiving or any other holiday is a great time to do
this, but opportunities exist every day. Simply holding the door open for
someone or saying "thank you" frequently will send a clear
Praise your child for being kind or helpful. By recognizing and reinforcing their positive behavior,
you are likely to see more of it.
Ask your child about his or her feelings. Show your children that you care about them and that
will encourage them to follow suit.
Encourage your child to make amends.
Provide a consequence for inconsiderate or hurtful
behavior. This is very important - but
even more importantly, make sure you enforce that consequence in a calm
and clear-headed manner.
Character Education Lessons are in full swing at OCS.
Mr. Kenney & Mrs. Saraiva went into all homeroom classes from Kindergarten to Eighth grade for the month of October. The C.O.R.R.E.C.T. value trait that we focused on was COURAGE!!! We all need to have courage every day of our lives from a little bit of courage to a lot of courage.
"You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face."Eleanor Roosevelt
Kindergarten - We read a story about what it means to be afraid and how do we show courage.
1st & 2nd Grade - We discussed courage and respect, how we are different and the same as our classmates. We read a Frog & Toad book.
3rd - 5th Grade - We did a lesson about "What Courage Is Needed". We had the children share what words or images pop into their mind when they think of courage. We talked about positive, good choices to make so we can be strong citizens every day. There were 3 signs posted around the classroom (1- a little courage, 2- some courage, and 3- a lot of courage). The students were given different situations that they might have to deal with as a student and how much courage would it take to act assertively (confidently) for each given situation. They went to the sign that they felt was best for them -- there were no right or wrong answers because it dealt with how each child felt.
6th - 8th Grade - What do you Stand For Book -- What does Courage Mean?
We read about the three types of courage -- physical, mental and moral. We read Profiles in Courage about famous people that showed courage -- Sir Isaac Newton, Admiral Richard E. Byrd, Rosa Parks and Thomas Edison, etc. We discussed Character Dilemmas that middle school students face and what would they do in that particular situation. Finally, we did some skits -- where the students were broken into groups and performed different skits for the class on courage scenarios (i.e.: admitting mistakes, meeting new people, standing up to peer pressure, sticking up for someone, etc.)
The month of November will be OPTIMISM......
It's not whether you get knocked down, it's whether you get up. Vince Lombardi
Parenting is probably the hardest job you were never trained for. When we become parents we are understandably full of excitement and joy, looking forward to all the fulfillment of raising a family. Often we aren't prepared for the inevitable conflicts that arise.
The following information is adapted from the webiste of Life Space Crisis Intervention (LSCI), a program that trains educators and parents how to use problems to help children and teens grow and learn.
The Conflict Cycle describes what happens in times of stress and conflict, when a kid can create in adults the same feelings the kid is having. If not prepared, adults will mirror their child's behaviors. In the heat of the moment, when adults do what comes naturally–what thousands of years of evolution have prepared their bodies to do–they often only make matters worse. That is why understanding the Conflict Cycle is the first line of defense against fueling further conflict.
THE CONFLICT CYCLE
An incident occurs (frustration, failure, etc.) that ACTIVATES a child’s irrational beliefs (e.g.,
“Nothing good ever happens to me,” “Adults are unfair!”), which in turn defines it as a stressful incident.
These negative beliefs and thoughts determine and TRIGGER the intensity of the student’s feelings.
These intense feelings – not the student’s rational forces – DRIVE his or her inappropriate behaviors.
4 The inappropriate behaviors (yelling, threatening, sarcasm, refusing to speak)
5 Adults not only pick up the student’s feelings, but also they frequently
MIRROR the student’s behaviors (yell back, threaten, etc.).
6 These negative adult
REACTIONS increase the student’s level of stress, escalating the conflict into a selfdefeating crisis.
7 Although the student may lose this battle (i.e., he or she is punished), the student wins the war! His or her
SELF‐FULFILLING PROPHECY (irrational belief about adults) is REINFORCED. Therefore, the student has no motivation to change or alter the irrational beliefs or the inappropriate behaviors.
You can learn more about the conflict cycle and how to avoid it by going to www.lsci.org .